Lazy teenager: causes and how to fix

A teenager refuses to clean the room, help with other household chores, does not part with his phone? Check out the article to help him get out of this state and learn how to motivate him to make the right choice (watch TV or help his parents).

Why are teenagers lazy?

It is not the fault of a teenager in such behavior, because this is how his brain works. It is in this organ that the most global changes occur during puberty, especially in the area where the functions of planning and control are located, which fully matures by the age of 25.

This does not mean at all that you will have to supervise the child until this age, however, until the age of 16, parental care is required.

Now the child does not fully master such skills as planning and assessing the consequences, scattered things for him are not a sign of another conflict with adults or the appearance of an unpleasant smell in the room, but just a not particularly significant part of life.

However, no one cancels education. Growing up should be accompanied by an understanding of responsibility, even for doing something you don’t like.

Teenager and room cleaning

Is there a mess in the children’s room? Make it so that it becomes not your problem, but the child’s. He must see the advantages in cleaning and this will happen only in the event of a “collision” with disadvantages.

No clean clothes? Sorry. Thus, the teenager will learn to turn on the washing machine. No pencils? It’s time to clean under the bed and put them back in place, instead of buying new stationery.

Personal hygiene

Some teenagers prefer to freshen up their bodies with deodorant alone. Taking a shower is troublesome, long, lazy.

You can silently endure and wait for an opportunity until the child’s classmates make a remark to him. On the other hand, it is better to read the tenth lecture on hygiene, its health benefits and the risks of not bathing.

Do not try to express your words with emotions, this approach will look like a power struggle, which teenagers do not like and close their tender soul in self-defense. Speak calmly, as if you were reading a book to a five-year-old child.

Teen does not help with household chores

Because the teenage brain can’t plan, much of the homework is often insurmountable. Since they don’t know what to do about it, the children decide not to do anything at all, but would not refuse help.

Try writing a cleaning plan on paper. Over a cup of tea, discuss what day he washes the dishes, takes out the trash and dusts the shelves. In case of default, the problem should not be yours. It may sound strange, but if the garbage continues to accumulate, then let it collect in the teenager’s room.

Avoid walking and sports

Studies show that most children in adolescence prefer a sedentary lifestyle, while physical development remains an important component of health. What can you do as a parent to keep your child active?

In any case, do not force them to do a certain sport, let them choose for themselves – this will reduce the likelihood of fatigue and loss of interest.

If you like to play tennis, try to captivate your pupil as well, even a simple walk in the fresh air will definitely benefit.

Games and social networks

It seems that teenagers have literally grown together with their gadgets, but it’s useless to scold them, it’s better to show patience and interest in your chosen hobby, and later agree on a time limit. Did you notice a violation of the established rule?

You will have to conduct strict control with an explanation why an unfulfilled promise is a sign of irresponsibility. Try to speak in a respectful, friendly, and clear way without turning the situation into a drama.

As soon as you see attempts to control the desire to take the gadget, stop tracking. This method will allow the teenager to quickly understand the requirements of the parent.

What won’t fix a lazy teenager

Raising and motivating a lazy child is not easy, it is easier to exacerbate the problem with simple words or actions that we are all used to. Remember the three main rules: you can not blame, show irritation, force. But you can praise and help.

Don’t say things like, “Back on the tablet again? Shouldn’t you be doing your homework?” Sit down and calmly explain why you don’t like it. Without unnecessary reproaches, adhering to a calm tone.

Teach your child responsibility without forcing them to follow your rules. In this case, the message should be: do what you must to learn how to do what you want. Become a friend to your child and before scolding, remember yourself as a teenager.